Heather Rainbow

Circle of Stones: Sitting with Darkness

02 Mar 2006 Leave a Comment

by heatherrainbow in archive, healing, positive

In being with my own darkness and reading others’ blogs of darkness, I decided to post this clip from a book I am reading called “Circle of Stones”. It validates women and all of our feelings.

How might your life have been different, if, when you were a young woman, the first time you felt feelings of depression, an older woman had come to sit with you? If she had come to sit with you, as someone had come to sit with her the first time she had feelings of depression? To simply sit, quietly perhaps wordlessly – to sit with you during your dark time.

And how might your life have been different if the woman had accepted your feelings of depression? Had accepted them so completely, and fully that you began to feel safe with them. If there had been no judgement and no questioning… no attempt to make you smile, to betray your feelings, to deny your darkness. If the woman had simply sat in silence with you, with your pain, and in the darkest moments had been able to reflect it to you… to reflect to you your pain… to witness … attend… and by her quiet respect for it to help you learn to respect it… your own pain and depression.. to witness, attend and respect your depression… and to see that just as the woman had faith in it, you also might have a glimmer of faith that there was meaning and truth in your darkness.