Adoption: Open Promises to Closed Doors

As a survivor of an open adoption that closed, I look around at all of my sisters who are experiencing mad negotiations, (both internal and external), and essentially allowing themselves to become the whipping women of abusive adoptive parents, for the sake of having glimpses of their children. I understand, because I was there, too. This is not the way it should be. This is Not the Way it should have always been.

It just convinces me more and more of the destructive nature of this society. And, I did not need convincing of the destructive nature of adoption. Of a system that became popular in the early 1900’s, after a woman named Georgia Tann went around stealing babies from mothers, promising them that she would take care of their sick baby and return them, promising to look after the child while the mother went to work, or just stealing the child off of the porch while the parents were inside making lunch. No one needed to convince me that the adoption industry that is based on a system in which a baby thief, Georgia Tann, gave babies to law makers, judges, politicians, so that they would not press charges against her, even though thousands upon thousands of families had been filing habeus corpus lawsuits to return their children to them, all of those which had been Completely Ignored. And, the slight transition of adoptive parents, who were given babies that they didn’t ask for, so that they would keep the baby thief in power because she made money (and let’s not mention ALL of the babies and children that Died in her care, even though they were healthy when they arrived) and shared the money with the same people who she took power away from who could have held her accountable to her crimes against Humanity. The transition of having been bought by being given babies, to demanding to be given babies so that they can be bought. What a relationship between corruption and evil.

Those are the roots in which some of these adoptive parents currently grow from. They demand mothers who have entrusted them with a human child, completely vulnerable and in need of love and care, a human child which they love and nurtured, and were promised to be able to have a relationship with their child. They manipulate these families and the children they stole. Claiming complete power over all of them. They skirt, back and forth, between allowing a picture, and disappearing. Some of these mothers and fathers have been cut off, or are constantly on the verge of being cut off. They are being puppeted, their strings are being pulled, their hearts growing scared at the constant threat, constant abuse. And what do these adopters do? Claim it is in the child’s best interest, and in the end, with the power they’ve wielded for over a hundred years, cut off the parents. Because they can. Because, it is likely what they have intended to do from the start, they only held off because of guilt. But entitlement drowns out their guilt, and they move, they change their email addresses and phone numbers, and they disappear.

But one day, their children will grow up, and they will want to know the truth.

If and / or When my daughter comes to me, and she wants to know the truth, I will tell her. Because I don’t want history to keep repeating itself. I don’t want my daughter to think that her adopters saved her from me. I want her to recognize that what her adopters did was wrong, they lied to me, from the getgo. They took away from her, a most valuable relationship, with her mother. They took away her ability to choose whether she would want to have one with me.

There is a big difference between adoptive parents and kidnappers.

…There are varying degrees of evil, we urge you lesser forms of filth not to push the bounds and cross over into true corruption, into our domain…

“Now you will receive us. We do not ask for your poor or your hungry. We do not want your tired and sick. It is your corrupt we claim.It is your evil that will be sought by us.With every breath, we shall hunt them down.Each day we will spill their blood til it rains down from the skies.Do not kill, do not rape, do not steal, these are principles which every man of every faith can embrace.These are not polite suggestions. These are codes of behavior and those of you that ignore them will pay the dearest cost.There are varying degrees of evil, we urge you lesser forms of filth not to push the bounds and cross over into true corruption, into our domain. But if you do, one day you will look behind you and you will see we three and on that day you will reap it. And we will send you to which ever god you wish.

And shepherds we shall be, for thee my Lord for thee, power hath descended forth from thy hand, that our feet may swiftly carry out thy command. We shall flow a river forth to thee, and teeming with souls shall it ever be. In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti”

 

Those who don’t know their history….

Are doomed to repeat it.

I really believe this whole heartedly. That is my problem with this society in general. History is told by the people who won the wars. They keep us from knowing our history, so that generation after generation, we continue to be slaves of this system, in one way or another.

Of course, the history of adoption in this country is very important to me. My experiences will one day be history, so I tell my story. Others experiences in the present time will one day be history. It is in the present that we can do what we can to learn the systemic abuse, and recognize the patterns of the people making all the rules that keep us from getting the freedoms we demand. Perhaps one day, we will succeed.

I have long stated that closed records only protect the agencies and lawyers as well as other politicians. It doesn’t protect the persons who are adopted, the family who has lost their loved one, or even the adoptive parent. The present, and recent past has demonstrated that. Even when all parties request the adoption to be opened, whether for a birth certificate or any other information, it is completely up to the courts to do so, and many still are denied.

I will go into more detail, when I have time… but I have finished reading the book, “Georgia Tann, the Baby Thief Who Corrupted Adoption”. It really speaks volumes to me about how an individual can wield so much power over those who are vulnerable. It kinda really emphasizes to me, that laws were put into place to protect those in power. When laws are there to defend the poor and the vulnerable, they are often times ignored.

Here are some clips of Georgia Tann:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Georgia_Tann

http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2007/sep/25/the-baby-thief/

http://www.onlineopinion.com.au/view.asp?article=6083

http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Thief-Georgia-Corrupted-Adoption/dp/1402758634/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1215182275&sr=8-1

 

Dear Michael Moore

I saw Family Preservation’s entry and I’m not giving up on you, Michael Moore, without an email.

(revised)

Dear Michael Moore,

I’ve been a great admirer of your work from the time I watched Roger & Me, all the way to Sicko. You have done great work in exposing the ills of corporations, the loss of ma and pop shops, the gruesome horrors of the Bush Administration, the current medical insurance institution, and so much more.

I know that you are an intelligent person, and we can’t all know everything there is to know… because there are so many things out there, and so much propaganda.

Your recent comments supporting Madonna and her adoption sound to me as though you do not understand the great depths of the entitlement that privileged people feel to save others. Nor do you appear to understand the billions of dollars that are made by adoption lawyers and agencies to steal them from mothers who are medicated in the hospital, in maternity homes, off their porches, out of their wombs, or who interrogate them until they sign papers giving up their rights, or who will terminate their rights without them signing anything.

See CRIN website regarding the letters from the human rights of Malawi to Madonna

The history of adoption and how it became corrupted (to literally give agencies the power to steal children off of the doorsteps of the poor) can be seen in the book, “The Baby Thief, the untold story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted adoption” written by Barbara Raymond, (as well as many other sources*) an adoptive mother. This isn’t just about stealing babies, its also about how agencies are tied to lawyers and judges and politicians, making illegal acts untouchable by justice seeking persons. Georgia Tann exploited babies, many of whom died, by stealing and putting them in her orphanage, and selling them to people. She also took pictures of them and placed them as ads in newspapers with some pretty atrocious catch lines that would make any person who was adopted puke. It also shows some of the very corrupt practices that greedy politicians use to control their city, from allowing crime by punishing them with fines, to shunning people who challenged them, sometimes with death, all of which had no justice.

But make no mistake, these are crimes not done just in the past… but all of which are still done today. Many mothers and fathers have challenged the adoption system begging, pleading to be reunited with their children, fighting for years and years to get them back, and continue to fail.

Rachel Sullivan, Allison Quets (allisonquets.com), Janette, Angele & John, Meg,

Karl Hindle (who is from the UK, but the mother moved to Florida and their child is placed, also has some medical connections) http://emilyrosehindle.blogspot.com/

Craig and Ibbaanika Bond

http://www.nbcactionnews.com/content/investigative/story.aspx?content_id=ef45e63e-7fbd-462d-8554-30aa793a80cf

Stephanie Bennett

http://sendevelynhome.com/default.aspx

Adrian Zane’s parents:

http://www.fightforadrian.com/page5.html

the mother of Amber James http://heatherrainbow.wordpress.com/2008/06/11/amber-james-update/

Cody and Ashley

http://www.babyselling.com/

These are just people that I know and have contact with. Many are still fighting. There has never been an investigation. Because it goes up, all the way to the top…. George and Laura Bush are on the Board of Directors of the most profitable adoption agency in the country, the Gladney Center, in Texas. The former Michigan adoption agency director now in charge of the health care of Iraqi citizens…. be prepared to see Iraqi orphans and infants on the US adoption market.

Put in by the Bush Admin:
See Democracy Now article:

Jim Haveman does not have a medical degree. He was a social worker, and he was the former Director of Community Health in the State of Michigan. Prior to his stint in government, he had a little bit of international experience, but it was largely in the context of being a director for International Aid, a faith-based relief organization that promotes Christianity in the developing world in conjunction with development assistance. And prior to that, he headed up a large adoption agency in the State of Michigan that urges pregnant women not to have abortions.

Please, please please… do some research. Contact some of these people. And at the very least, understand that we criticize Madonna, because she has violated Malawiian law, and that that child is now losing his parents, his country, his language, his culture, all because he was poor. Maybe Madonna even had good intentions, but the act was wrong, nonetheless. We should be supporting poor families, not punishing them for being poor and/or vulnerable.

In Peace,
Heather

http://www.amazon.com/Stork-Market-Americas-Multi-Billion-Unregulated/dp/1427608954

http://www.crin.org/resources/infoDetail.asp?ID=10705&flag=news

Babies ‘removed to meet targets’
By Brian Wheeler

http://womenshealthnews.blogspot.com/2007/01/pregnant-teens-escape-so-does.html

http://caica.org/New_Hope_Maternity_Home_teens_escape_1-20-07.htm

 

Spotters

I am reading the book, “The Baby Theif: The Untold Story of Georgia Tann the baby seller who corrupted adoption” and learned the term Spotters.

Spotters are the people who would seek out women who were poor, and would report back to Georgia Tann. The family would become a target, and they would do everything possible to steal the children. And they always succeeded.

Edward Hull Crump, the mayor in Memphis TN, and the Juvenile court judge, Camille Kelley were in Georgia’s back pocket, and approved all of the kidnappings and sales of children that she completed. Kelley also went around to orphanages and was a spotter, taking down names of marketable children. Georgia made tons of money for children who prior to her marketing, people couldn’t give away for free.

Georgia was also the woman who made exploiting children as a means of selling a product (themselves) popular. A Memphis reporter, Ada Gilkey needed a subject to fill her Christmas story articles. Being a time of the depression, Georgia deemed the newspaper a good place to place children in the newspaper. Every day was a different picture of children, with very demeaning phrases such as…

“Want a real, live Christmas present?” (12/9/1929)
“A present guaranteed to add two fold to the joy of the holidays? Well here’s your chance, for 25 children ranging in age from three months to seven years will be presented to as many lucky families this Christmas Eve…”

“Could you use a Christmas baby?”
“Which of three infant boys will you have for Christmas?”
“Living dolls [three baby girls] for YOU.”

and so many more.

The spotter who saw me was Phi Nyugen, who was my daughter’s pediatrician. This doctor is related to Stephanie McDonald, (maiden name Nyugen) who worked as a Director of Operations at the JFCS (Jewish Family and Community Services) for which Kathleen Stevens, the “social worker” who accompanied Shorstein in my hospital room while I was drugged up in the hospital. They saw I was from out of state and on Medicaid and presumed I would be an easy target. They were right. While drugged up in the hospital, I was easy prey forcing me to sign relinquishment papers, as they would not leave my room until I had done so. This has been common practice since Georgia Tann started, dating back to the 1920’s. Still common practice today.

I hate adoption. I hate Georgia Tann. I hate the Shorsteins and Kathleen Stevens. They are a bunch of child stealers. Their intent, to prey on the weak and vulnerable, and make a profit by selling babies and children.

 

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Adoptive Parents VS. Adopters

I just want to make it clear that I do believe there is a difference between adoptive parents and adopters. The people who took my daughter are adopters. They lied, coerced, and cut me off from my daughter. They are cruel, manipulative, and refuse to even answer a single question. They lied to me on sooo my levels and layers, that I am going to refrain from reposting them here, lest it get me away from the intention of this post.

On the other hand, there are some adoptive parents, who when they adopt, don’t realize the depth of the pain they are causing to us natural moms, nor to our children. And sometimes they help us out.

It was two wonderful adoptive mothers who did extensive research for me, when all I had were first names and a marriage year to go on. No last name. Only the state they lived in. And, though I didn’t know it, not even my daughter’s first name.

With such little information, they searched a program and found the last names as well as some information on where they lived, who they lived with, previous addresses, place of employment, and lots of tidbits here and there.

And, in my next post, which will be private, I am going to tell you a message I received yesterday.

 

Allison Quets

My friend Allison is a great wonderful brave and very strong woman. She has been going up against the Shorsteins & Co. for almost three years now.

This is Her Story and you can sign her petition, to hold the guilty parties accountable for their fraudulent conduct and to ask for an investigation to return her babies to her.

I have known and worked with Allison for a couple of years now, and she has been through hell and fire to get her children back. She is a very capable woman, a professional woman, and had unforseeable complications during her pregnancy and shorty after which left her vulnerable to the wolves of Shorstein and Co.

Please support her in whatever way you can.

 

Craig Lenz and Ibbaanika Bond’s fight for their son

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A metro man is in the middle of a bitter battle to raise his son.

An NBC Action News Investigation reveals that his fight could have a huge impact on other fathers and adoptions.

At the center of the battle is a child unaware that his biological father has been fighting the system to keep him from being adopted by someone else.

Like a proud dad, Craig Lentz shows off his son’s room to NBC Action News Investigator Keith King.

“We’re just keeping everything for him until he comes home,” Lentz said.

Since shortly after birth, Lentz has not been able to be part of his son’s life. “When he has parents that love him and want him, it’s ridiculous that a third party can come and take him away,” Lentz said.

Like many contested adoptions, the details are confusing, the legal battle is expensive and the feelings are bitter.

Lentz was there when his son was born in Dec. 2004. He and girlfriend Ibbaanika lived in different cities.

Lentz says the plan was for him to eventually reunite with Ibbaanika and his son in Kansas City.

But by February, just two months after his son’s birth, the young, unwed mother, too afraid to tell her family, made the painful decision to cut her parental rights. She agreed to give the baby up for adoption, against Lentz’ wishes.

“I had second thoughts on my own. He never agreed with it at all, from the very beginning, he was always against it,” Ibbaanika said

Lentz’ name was not on the birth certificate. He wanted proof, and a DNA test eventually showed he was the father. But that proof came too late and the adoption wheels were already in motion.

“I thought what I had done was a mistake. I was sorry. I never meant for things to be that way,” Ibbaanika said.

Court documents show Lentz filed a motion to intervene, and stop the adoption. But the Jackson County Family Court ruled that Lentz had not complied with the state’s requirements and therefore his consent was not necessary. The court then signed off on the adoption.

In Missouri, unmarried fathers have to place their name on the child’s birth certificate or go to court to establish their paternity. And they have to do it fast.

According to a little known state law, fathers have only 15 DAYS to do it, or risk losing their child.

“I was surprised. I thought that was not enough time,” State Rep. Leonard Hughes said.

Rep. Hughes, of Kansas City, says the 15 day rule affects unmarried dads all across the state. “And what’s best for that child is giving the time so everyone can go through thorough tests and thorough processes so everything is accounted for,” Rep. Hughes said.

Lentz appealed the family court’s decision all the way up to the Missouri Supreme Court.

His case brought an unexpected response. The court ruled unanimously that despite the 15 day rule, putative fathers can still challenge the adoption or termination of their rights in a timely manner.

It was a huge victory for Lentz but a short lived celebration. “And the Supreme Court said I did everything in a timely manner like I was supposed to do,” Lentz said.

The case went back to the Jackson County family court where a judge allowed supervised visits between Lentz and his son during the lengthy legal battles.

But last December, despite the Missouri Supreme Court’s ruling, the Jackson County Family Court still allowed another family to adopt the child, arguing that Lentz did not act fast enough.

“If I didn’t pay child support, I would be forced to go to the state penitentiary. Now I want to take responsibility for this child and they are telling me that I can’t,” Lentz said.

Now, Rep. Hughes wants to change the law. Instead of 15 days, he wants dads to have up to 60 days to claim their paternity.

That won’t help Craig Lentz. His battle to gain custody of his son continues in court. “We love him and we did everything we could to bring him home,” Lentz said.

When asked why he is speaking out now, Lentz said “This is what’s right for my child.”

The legal battle is not over. Lentz’ attorney is appealing the case back to the Missouri Supreme Court to appeal the lower court’s decision to let the adoption go through.

The family court judge told NBC Action News she cannot speak about the issue sinc the case is on appeal.

The child is now 3-years-old and living with the adoptive family.

 

Adoption Kool-aid? Me??

One of the advantages of short term memory loss, is that I actually don’t remember having spewed out the raspberry red kool-aid that had been injected into my IV while in the hospital.

My situation was obviously coercive. Lawyer (Michael Shorstein) and Agency Director (Kathleen Stevens) coming into my room the day after my daughter was born, not leaving until I signed papers, and not taking no for an answer.

“But, I want to keep my daughter”

“I do not know any services available to allow you to do so.”

“You need to pick an adoptive family, who are financially and emotionally stable.”

Financially, yes. Emotionally stable? FAT CHANCE.

Even so, because I received a picture here and there for three years, I would say that I “chose” adoption. That, really, this was the best for my daughter. Even though there was strong evidence that her adopters were liars and crazy. “Yes, we’ll call you from the hospital when we pick her up, and you can say goodbye” – direct lie, no phone call ever.

In 2002, when my baby was just four, I was spewing the kool-aid crap to my current partner. Of course, he even realizes that the reason why… was because I had to believe it. Because I had to think of them in good light, so that I might get another picture. If I showed any sign of being not grateful for adoption, they might stop.

But, like the abusers story, the reason they stopped had nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them. Because, they are liars and abusers.

And, even though I received nothing from them, between 2001 and 2004, still I had hope. And, when the agency found them in 2004, and I received an album from them, in April, my daughter’s birthday, I had a sinking feeling in my stomach. I knew they had never meant to keep the adoption open. They did not respond to any of my questions, they continued to evade the whole, “I want to make you comfortable, how often would you commit to sending me pictures and updates” question. They just paraded about how smart my daughter was, what her favorite color, food, and so on was. I knew it was superficial. But still I tried…

And when I sent them a letter again in the fall of 2004, and Kathleen stated, “I’m sorry, Heather, they moved again. I’m unwilling to search for them again. Dana is obviously insecure, and does not intend to be in an open relationship.”

That was when I vomited up all of the kool-aid, and began my crusade against the adoption industry. Starting off, with helping my friend Allison Quets to fight against them to try to get her babies back. Because, Shorstein had coerced her, too.

Update: My daughter doesn’t even know she’s adopted. Her parents are getting divorced, and her “adoptive mother” is over-controlling, objectifying all of her relationships, and my daughter has become her cheerleader. They still refuse to respond to any of my requests for updates or visits, because the adoptive mother wants to keep the illusion that she gave birth to my daughter.

 

Angela Jackson – Recovers two sons abducted to Texas from Scotland

From Emily’s Dad’s Journal:

At about 2am this morning I received a telephone call I’d been waiting for for a couple of years and one I know Angela Jackson thought she may never be able to make for over three years – her two sons, Scott and Brett are coming home !

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The last couple of weeks had become hectic for Angela as her US attorney, Pamela Brown of TRLA donated her time and started started the legal filings while we looked for a way to fund Angela’s trip across the Pond.

David Thelen, CEO of The Committee for Missing Children based outside Atlanta, Georgia funded the trip for Angela after a UK newspaper pulled out at the 11th hour – a big pat on the back is due to David and his brilliant organisation – the only one I have come across that is actually prepared to put it’s money where it’s mouth is.

The Scotsman – Newspaper article

Three years ago her American husband, Fred “Boom Boom” Jackson, abducted their two sons to the United States while Angela was recovering from breast cancer in a Scottish hospital.

For 3 years, Fred moved around, hiding the boys and told them their mother was in a mental institution and that she also had died – while still married to Angela, “Boom Boom” Fred also married another Scottish mother who went to Texas with him and claimed the boys as her own – he was convicted of bigamy.

During this time, “Boom Boom” Fred also attempted to extort money out of Angela – something I can attest to personally, while an unknown scam artist claimed the kids had been arrested at Lagos airport, Nigeria last year.

Yesterday, Judge Migdalia Lopez in a Texan court ruled the boys are to be returned to Scotland in the custody of their mother and final proceedings are to take place in Scotland to determine their future – Angela called to tell me she is starting out at 5am her time to return with the children back to Scotland on Friday.

Proud of you poppitt – never quit, never give in, always find a way – and you did it!