As a survivor of an open adoption that closed, I look around at all of my sisters who are experiencing mad negotiations, (both internal and external), and essentially allowing themselves to become the whipping women of abusive adoptive parents, for the sake of having glimpses of their children. I understand, because I was there, too. This is not the way it should be. This is Not the Way it should have always been.
It just convinces me more and more of the destructive nature of this society. And, I did not need convincing of the destructive nature of adoption. Of a system that became popular in the early 1900’s, after a woman named Georgia Tann went around stealing babies from mothers, promising them that she would take care of their sick baby and return them, promising to look after the child while the mother went to work, or just stealing the child off of the porch while the parents were inside making lunch. No one needed to convince me that the adoption industry that is based on a system in which a baby thief, Georgia Tann, gave babies to law makers, judges, politicians, so that they would not press charges against her, even though thousands upon thousands of families had been filing habeus corpus lawsuits to return their children to them, all of those which had been Completely Ignored. And, the slight transition of adoptive parents, who were given babies that they didn’t ask for, so that they would keep the baby thief in power because she made money (and let’s not mention ALL of the babies and children that Died in her care, even though they were healthy when they arrived) and shared the money with the same people who she took power away from who could have held her accountable to her crimes against Humanity. The transition of having been bought by being given babies, to demanding to be given babies so that they can be bought. What a relationship between corruption and evil.
Those are the roots in which some of these adoptive parents currently grow from. They demand mothers who have entrusted them with a human child, completely vulnerable and in need of love and care, a human child which they love and nurtured, and were promised to be able to have a relationship with their child. They manipulate these families and the children they stole. Claiming complete power over all of them. They skirt, back and forth, between allowing a picture, and disappearing. Some of these mothers and fathers have been cut off, or are constantly on the verge of being cut off. They are being puppeted, their strings are being pulled, their hearts growing scared at the constant threat, constant abuse. And what do these adopters do? Claim it is in the child’s best interest, and in the end, with the power they’ve wielded for over a hundred years, cut off the parents. Because they can. Because, it is likely what they have intended to do from the start, they only held off because of guilt. But entitlement drowns out their guilt, and they move, they change their email addresses and phone numbers, and they disappear.
But one day, their children will grow up, and they will want to know the truth.
If and / or When my daughter comes to me, and she wants to know the truth, I will tell her. Because I don’t want history to keep repeating itself. I don’t want my daughter to think that her adopters saved her from me. I want her to recognize that what her adopters did was wrong, they lied to me, from the getgo. They took away from her, a most valuable relationship, with her mother. They took away her ability to choose whether she would want to have one with me.
There is a big difference between adoptive parents and kidnappers.
…There are varying degrees of evil, we urge you lesser forms of filth not to push the bounds and cross over into true corruption, into our domain…
“Now you will receive us. We do not ask for your poor or your hungry. We do not want your tired and sick. It is your corrupt we claim.It is your evil that will be sought by us.With every breath, we shall hunt them down.Each day we will spill their blood til it rains down from the skies.Do not kill, do not rape, do not steal, these are principles which every man of every faith can embrace.These are not polite suggestions. These are codes of behavior and those of you that ignore them will pay the dearest cost.There are varying degrees of evil, we urge you lesser forms of filth not to push the bounds and cross over into true corruption, into our domain. But if you do, one day you will look behind you and you will see we three and on that day you will reap it. And we will send you to which ever god you wish.
And shepherds we shall be, for thee my Lord for thee, power hath descended forth from thy hand, that our feet may swiftly carry out thy command. We shall flow a river forth to thee, and teeming with souls shall it ever be. In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti”
