Living My Life
19 Apr 2012 2 Comments
I’m very excited about all the media being promoted about the truth of adoption / abduction stories. Between the Catholic Church abuses, the industry lies, the Dan Rather reports, and so many others. I even love the new show, Once Upon A Time. If you haven’t seen it yet, WATCH THE PILOT show, it will blow your mind. Prepare to be validated.
My own life is so so. Me and my partner moved into our new house. It’s pretty much a fixer upper. We are starting a farm with a group of our friends. He is spear heading the vegetable farm, and I’m growing some medicinal and culinary herbs.
Work life is good. I’m working in the field of family support and reunification, which is awesome. I love it.
My story with my daughter is that I am still being outcast. After attempting, for years, to extend a voice to her adopters, and being ignored, their attempts to contact me with vehemence and negativity, I refuse to go through them again. They were extremely abusive towards me, and I simply will not allow myself to be in that position. In terms of my daughter, if she wishes to know me, and communicate, I will be here. Unfortunately, I hate to think of what kind of lies they are telling her about me, so I’m not all that hopefull.
I’m getting back into painting. It’s a very healing art for me at the moment. My family life is difficult. My mom has lung cancer, although she is in remission now. I still worry.
The state of the world is confusing at best. I struggle with what it is I should be doing. If there is more I can do, if I could be doing things better, and so on. I just feel that the issues of classism, racism, sexism, are so incidious in our culture (in the U.S.) that we just really need a new foundation. Just tear it all down and start over again, knowing our history. And, the climate… and the earth…
One day at a time. Hopefully it won’t be so long since I write again. I’m also going to the conference in Toronto, hope to see some of you there!
From Carla Moquin:
13 Aug 2011 1 Comment
in activists, adoption loss, family, fighting adoption systems, fighting false adoption perspectives, friends Tags: family preservation, fighting corruption, open adoption
I am writing to ask for your help in enabling me to take Peri’s case to the California Supreme Court. We have come a long way already, and now we have the opportunity to make a tremendous difference in Peri’s life as well as for thousands of other families who enter into open adoptions believing that open adoption actually means legally enforceable rights of contact with their children.
The California Court of Appeals recently upheld the trial court’s decision that Susan and Demyn did not commit fraud, in spite of the overwhelming evidence of Susan and Demyn’s overt manipulation of our family. The Court reached this decision by ignoring virtually all of the documentation and testimony in the case and even getting a critical fact wrong, despite Demyn’s clear admission at the trial that he knew that I had not been told of their plans not to file the Contact Agreement at finalization and he actively chose not to tell me himself. The Court’s decision creates a disturbing precedent in open adoption law by holding that, even though a California law requires post-adoption contact agreements to be filed and made legally enforceable, adopters can freely ignore this rule by simply claiming (contrary to all the other evidence) that they didn’t know that the biological parent wanted the contact agreement to be filed. This opens the door to blatant fraud within all open adoptions and potentially to adopters and agencies picking and choosing between other forms signed by biological parents (such as a form designating specific adoptive parents) as to what will actually become part of the final adoption framework.
We have a huge opportunity to make sure that open adoption actually means something for parents who are surrendering their children based on promises of openness. Please help us to raise the $1,500 we need to petition the CA Supreme Court to take this case (we have raised $350 already):
Donate To Our Efforts
We are also working to get major media coverage (as well as blogs written) about the huge negative ramifications if this decision is allowed to stand, so as to increase the CA Supreme Court’s interest in the case. If you have ideas or want to assist us in obtaining publicity, please contact me. We would also greatly appreciate if you would please forward this email to others who may be interested in this case.
Many more details and the evidence in the case are on the website here:
BringPeriHome.com
Thank you so much for your support of Peri and your support of bringing integrity to open adoption.
Carla, Nyles, Alpha, and Echo Moquin
Rainy Days
20 May 2011 3 Comments
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It’s been raining almost every day this whole spring season.
I haven’t written, because I’ve been busy.
But, I wanted to let people know. I’m going through a really hard time. My mother has adnoid cancer. She may have been misdiagnosed with fibromyalgia. Who knows for how long. My mom is fairly young. My grandmother (her mother) is still alive. Not in great health, but alive. And, my mother may not live longer than my grandmother. And my mother will never know my daughter. And, she likely won’t ever meet any of my future children, if I could have children.
But it also means I won’t have my mom anymore. And, we haven’t had a really warm or good relationship. We’ve had a lot of hard times. It has not been easy. But its scary. And, I don’t really know how to deal with all these emotions.
Strangely, I found out that my daughter had had her adnoids removed about a year or two ago. How adoption bizarre is that?
Question of the week
18 Apr 2011 3 Comments
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how much jail time would I get for falsely adopting?
Hm. Interesting question. Rather than answering, cause, I don’t have the answer for this one, I’d like to explore the question.
Jail time – To feel as though you committed a crime that would result in criminal prosecution and jail time. Not, would I? or Legal Rights, but How Much?
Falsely adopting – well, sounds like paperwork is not quite in order. Sounds like there was some fraud or coercion going on. Sounds like someone got their hands on a nice little baby that maybe their proper parents could have (and should have, considering you think you should be in Jail). And, by the way, another term for falsely adopting – trafficking children. Look at how much time you’ll get for that one.
Taking Care of Other People’s Emotions
15 Apr 2011 6 Comments
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I have this problem a great deal of the time. I take care of other people’s emotions.
I had a problem with a friend the other day. Apparently I didn’t respond to something that she had wanted me to. At first, I was all trying to defend myself. This is why I said this, this is why I didn’t say all that, this is my explanation / excuse / etc.
Really, honestly, it was a very petty issue. It didn’t need defending. After all of my explanations, it was determined it wasn’t a good enough excuse. That somehow, I needed to be more, have better answers, do something else that honestly, I would have no way of being able to know what or if I could do it. It’s a challenge to do the impossible.
Finally, I responded and said, I can’t do this any more. I can’t walk on broken glass. I need to be able to just Be myself.
This is what happens after being abused, whether by a person or a system. This is what happens when we feel guilty, or somehow responsible for the outcomes of things that really we had no control over. It’s a way of trying to get control over a situation we have no control over.
I’m done with it. This was my experience in my short term semi open adoption experience. I tried to please them in any and every way I could. I asked things nicely. I tried to give space. I tried to be direct and open. And when they failed to answer my questions, when they failed to let me visit, see, talk to my daughter, I somehow thought it was something I did. Maybe my poems weren’t good enough. Maybe I didn’t say everything exactly right. Maybe I did something wrong.
But the truth of it? It wasn’t my fault. And, it’s not my fault when people attack me over something I did or didn’t say.
So, I am walking away from this theology of TCOPE. I will not be made into the role of the girl who has to walk on glass pieces. I am not going to be responsible for other people’s issues.
I have my own life to live.
Question of the week:
14 Apr 2011 Leave a Comment
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what are the adoption social worker tactics?
Answer : Introduction
Happy Birthday
08 Apr 2011 1 Comment
in activists, adoption loss, fighting adoption systems, fighting false adoption perspectives, healing, my story, Shorstein
If there is one thing I’d like you to know, is that I love you, and I never stopped fighting.
I’ve never given up fighting. Even when I couldn’t fight for you, I still fought the system in your name.
I don’t know where you are or what you are doing, and I know that you may not even care about me. But my love is unconditional. I will always love you.
I have joined a class action lawsuit against the lawyer who finalized your adoption. Because, what he did was not right. He participated in a scheme to attack me at my most vulnerable point, just like he (and so many others like him) do to other women all over the world.
I do this in your name. I continue fighting this system that has taken you from me, and made you hate me. I continue fighting in hopes that one day you will know that I did this all for you, for me, and for all people who have been unethically and illegally adopted.
Questions that Got Here
31 Mar 2011 Leave a Comment
If you have questions about adoptions, leave them as a comment and I will do my best to answer them.
Q: can u sue a person for misleading you to sign document
A: Adoption typically happens at a time that is most vulnerable for a woman, usually immediately after the birth of a child. There are times when lawyers and agencies repeatedly target women while they are pregnant so that they don’t have time to plan for the birth.
Here are a couple of cases of adoption fraud:
Class Action Lawsuit against Shorstein in Florida: StopShorstein. These are about adoptions that were promised to be open that closed.
Here is a mother who immediately revoked her consent in TX, and got her child back.
Supreme Court
Findlaw Caselaw
Shorstein, Class Action Lawsuit
28 Mar 2011 Leave a Comment
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There is now a Stop Shorstein Advocacy Group, and this is what it says when I did a search:
Shorstein has been participating in the sale of children for about 20 years. Now is time to fight back. Contact us to participate in a class action lawsuit if you have placed a child for adoption and Shorstein was involved. If you are unsure, feel free to contact us.
Shorstein has been considered the adoption kingpin in Florida. He targets vulnerable pregnant girls and women to sign papers giving up their rights to their children. Sometimes he makes mothers sign in hospital rooms, hours after they have given birth, or corners them in his office, not allowing them to leave. He then promises “open adoptions”, which are not legally enforceable.
The “Stop Shorstein Advocacy Group” is now available to help those who have been coerced into signing away their rights to their child by Shorstein. Even if you are unsure if you were coerced, please call. We can connect you to legal support to determine if your rights were violated.
We are families united against Shorstein to hold them accountable for their actions.
Were you:
* made promises that were misleading?
* made to sign legal documents under false pretenses?
* Were you manipulated, coerced, or tricked?
* been denied the relationship with your children that you were promised?
Have they:
* stated that it is semi-open or closed after promising an open adoption?
* made excuse after excuse for failing to follow-through with their promises?
* told you it is no longer in your child’s best interest to know you?
You aren’t alone. Contact us today. You deserve justice.
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