When an adoptive mother Always cries on her adopted daughter’s birthday?
She’s so happy to have her?
Does it remind her that she did not give birth to her?
Does she think about her mother?
Is she sad? Angry? Jealous?
January 23, 2009
January 23, 2009
When an adoptive mother Always cries on her adopted daughter’s birthday?
She’s so happy to have her?
Does it remind her that she did not give birth to her?
Does she think about her mother?
Is she sad? Angry? Jealous?
January 31, 2009 at 3:15 am
that depends if they changed the birth date. and how sub human she is. lol
March 9, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Heather,
My A-Mom and I have had numerous discussions. A few months ago, after she had thought about what I had said about adoption loss, she revealed that she regrets not giving birth to me. She also came up with an idea on her own for a combined birth/adoption certificate. To be fair (which my anger prevents) I saw the look of sadness on her face when I said it would not work; that birth and adoption are two different events. The adoptee is affected by both. Mom was trying to understanding, and I shot her down.
I think she has cried on my birthday for years because she did not experience pregnancy and birth. While my empathy and sadness was fleeting for her, I feel guilty for that as well. She is dying, and I “should” be more loving. I don’t know how.
Mom asks about you. She misses you. I miss you. Now I understand more and my heart aches for you. One night, late at night, I saw you on Think Bright, standing up, making a statement at a humanist meeting that was televised. You will always be a special part of my life.
Love always,
Joan